I don't want a "boyfriend". I don't check-in with anyone before I do something. I like this freedom. I like the opportunity to say yes.
I need trust, respect, loyalty and honesty. I also know what I am incapable of: I can't rearrange my life for anyone. I can't play housewife. I can't be a man's date for every event he attends. I do what I please. But is it so unfair of me to ask of the rare man to submit to some form of "commitment" - in the vaguest sense of the term - to me, and vice versa, amidst the freedom that I want and would give? Could we not share intellectual interests, but not participate in all of the rest of the garbage - the obligatory, unnecessary, meaningless actions that typically define a relationship - that I abhor? Could that alone not make me a "girlfriend"?
I would like for it to be enough. I really would like to be that kind of girlfriend.